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My parents are 96 and 97 and still live in their home. Growing up, my father was usually the parent who was more easy going and my mother was the demanding one. Now the roles have reversed, and my father is very demanding and has become extremely controlling, both with little things like when the dog should be walked and with bigger things, like home repairs that need to be done. He decides what to eat and when to have meals, what to watch on t.v., when laundry needs to be done, every single thing. Is this an indicator of dementia? Either my sister or I stay there at night and sometimes during the day, but he is driving us up the wall with his incessant complaining and illogical demands. Any thoughts or suggestions?

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Dementia? I don't know. At their ages there could be all kinds of things going on. I can only tell you to take the path of least resistance in the most subtle way possible. I decided several years ago I wasn't going to let my father make me into a different person. It is so hard because I want to react to him, but I know it would just make things worse in the long run. It makes me crazy. Sometimes I want to run screaming into the streets. But in the end, I can't control him. I can only TRY to control my reaction, which includes my own emotions. I hope you and your sister can openly talk and support each other. That is so special if you have that.

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I've learned it's easiest to just say Yes, Ok rather than fighting it. They feel like they are losing control, I think that's why they get bossier
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