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walsar

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Hello,
I am new in this forum and I just need opinion about my situation. I have been sending money to my brother and sister who lives in a different country every month for their expenses since 2007. My husband got mad at me a week ago for doing this and asked me why am I giving away the money he worked hard for 30 years to my siblings. He told me that my two sisters who lives in the US and Canada and my sister's son who lives in Canada should be the one sending them money not me.

Well I have been helping my siblings because my husband gambles our money and I have decided to use the money which is only $200 a month for a good cause. He said he will stop gambling if I stop sending money to my siblings. Which I know is not true, he has been gambling for 32 years and he doesn't even know how much money he has lost already, enough to payoff our mortgage. But we lost our home because he keeps on gambling and he doesn't keep his promises. My siblings are aged 72 and 70 and my husband is 70 and I am 68.

Thank you for any insights, God bless you always.

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Chria6753

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Time to cut the strings, dear. No one ever paid my way and there was many times I needed help. Tell me one thing what are they going to do if something happens to you? They will take and keep on taking. It is time to say NO MORE. You need your money and stop wasting it on giving it to others. As for the gambler in your house it is time to get help for him or drop him. That is a waste of your retirement money. You should be enjoying your life not wasting it away.
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walsar

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Thank you so much for your reply, I really appreciate it. I wasn't sure of what to do, but you are right, I have to do something. I wrote a letter to my sister after I've read your message. I told her the reason why I am not able to send her money. I've been sending both my siblings money since 2007 and I could have save that money and for 11 years every month, that's about $26,400.00. I don't even buy clothes, no jewelry, all my clothes and shoes are old and I have sacrificed a lot for them. So I hope she will not get mad at me and  get help from her children. Her children doesn't give her anything because they know that I've been sending her money. I have also written my husband a message and told him how I felt, him wasting a lot of money in gambling. I made a lot of suggestions and hopefully he will take it. Thanks and God bless you always.
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