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Bette
Reply with quote  #46 

Shiela,

I feel your frustration.  They say that when you hallucinate you can see almost anything.  It doesn't matter whether it's people or animals or even bugs.

You say that she lives by herself.  Have you thought about other living arrangements?  When my Mom lived by herself she had them very bad. At first I thought that it was an attention getter, but then as time went on I told her that I could not handle hearing about it anymore. Then she still talked about it and she was really serious about it.  Then I knew that I had to do something about it.  Have you taken her to a neurologist? A shortage of B12 can cause this as well.

So after a couple more months, I knew that I had to something.  She is now living in an Assisted Living Facility. It has now been 3 weeks and she has not had any hallucinations.  But you have to realize to that when living by yourself especially at that age, you have a lot more time on your hands and it is easily to get depressed.  If possible, if you have any in your area, I would take her to an adult day care facility for about a week to give her things to do. Then when she would go home at night she would be thinking about what she has done during the day, and possibly and hopefully it might go away and that will tell you that she needs companionship of some sort.

Please keep me posted. I do care about people going through this.

I felt so bad that I didn't believe my Mother but, I can't look back, I just see her enjoying herself with her new friends.  And she doesn't make friends easily.

Good Luck to you,

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Bette
Reply with quote  #47 

Shiela,

 

I also meant to tell you to check the meds that she is on and see if there are any side effects or drug interactions.

 

Do the research on the internet.  Also, I have found information out that Doctors were not even aware of.  Does your husband have other siblings that can check in on her as well?  It's always hard when its just one person doing everything.

 

Best to you

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Sheila
Reply with quote  #48 

Bette, Thank you for your reply.  My husband's brother and sister both live closer to my mother-in-law.  Sister is the main person who cares for mother-in-law.  She is the one who is at wit's end, not knowing what to do.  She said that anytime she brings up moving out of the apartment, her mom gives a very stong negative response.  She wants to stay in her place.  She has a very negative feeling about any "old age places."  It seems like we are doing all this behind her back.  No one has the guts to say that she needs to move or that she is not seeing live bugs and animals at night.  We know she will be very hostile to anyone who brings these subjects up to her.  We feel like we are walking on "thin ice" whenever we talk about something she does not like.

 

I am very interested in checking into the B-12 shots.  I know my own Mom had them and I think they helped her think more clearly.  Somehow we will have to find out what her meds are.  I think that I am the only person in the brother, sister, and in-law team who knows anything about the internet and computers.  I will try to research her meds.  I'm sure that our own children will do better for us because that generation is all very computer literate. Thanks again.

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sandra
Reply with quote  #49 

Hello! I have been reading this messages with interest, and thought I could share my experience with my mother. She is 80, and in good health, self-sufficient, and living in an apartment by herself. Last Sunday I went to take her to the movies, and found her lying on the floor, babbling and very confused. She had been having hallucinations for the past few weeks, and insisted she fell while chasing the cats out of the tree. (She has no cats, and no trees). I took her to the hospital, and I mentioned to the staff that she had been having recurrent UTIs, and could this explain her state of confusion. Quite possible, they said. They put her on intravenous antibiotics, and within one day she was back to her normal self. I mention this because I think it may offer some comfort. I thought I had "lost" my mother, who suddenly couldnT even remember her birthday, but it was all due to the UTI.

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Bette
Reply with quote  #50 

Hi Sandra,

Yes, I have heard of UTI's causing hallucinations in the elderly.  My husband aunt had the same problem when she was in a nursing home.  I had never heard of it before then.  I used to get UTI's all of the time and never had that problem.  I wonder what the age thing has to do with it?  Any ideas?

Glad that she is better now. 

This site has been a lifesaver for me.  I thought that I was the only one going through this with my Mother, because Doctors could not seem to give us any answers. I felt so blessed when I came across it as I am sure the rest of you feel the same.

Take care

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Liz
Reply with quote  #51 

I am looking for resources that may provide help to my parents when they attend Doctor appointments. They are both in their 80's and live in NYC. Primarily looking for someone who can pick up at their home and accompany them to and from their appointments. Does anyone have any suggestions? I would greatly appreciate any helpful information where I can find such help for them. Thanks!

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Bette
Reply with quote  #52 

Liz,

I live in Florida and their are alot of different agencies down here mainly because of Florida being a retirement state.  Do you live near them or do you have siblings nearby that you could take turns taking them yourselves?  The reason that I am asking you this is because my husbands aunt and uncle had a caregiver and she worked her magic on them. She really knew how to turn on the charm.  Finally, I got wind of this and she was gone.  You really have to be so careful when hiring someone with whom you can trust.  And believe me there are people out there who take full advantage of the elderly. It is very sad but happens. Do they have any friends that might know of someone?  How bad is their health?  Check with the Chamber of Commerce and see who they recommend.  I always take my Mom to her Doctors appointments because I want to know what is going on with her health. Plus I get a report so that I can keep in her file.  I can't tell you how many times that I have changed her Doctors. This past time it was because when I went to get the report and read it I was amazed at what was on it.  She said that he listened to her lungs, checked her abdomen and legs for swelling among other things, and he didn't touch her.  All he did was sit there for a follow up visit.  I was sitting right there. 

I will tell you Liz, the elderly are just a number. Went through the same thing with my Dad 3 years ago. Now he is gone. I learned alot from that experience.  My Mom is in a ALF and she is getting around better and eating better.

It is very hard being in our situation.  Because we love them but cannot always be there all of the time.  It's impossible.

But do try calling the Chamber of Commerce and explain your situation to them and see what they offer.  Also, maybe your local hospital and talk with a social worker they are usually very helpful.  Also, what about the doctors that they go to, do they have any suggestions for you?

 

Good luck and keep me posted.

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judy
Reply with quote  #53 

Sheila,

 

My father is 92, widowed, and lives alone. He has recently been complaining

about seeing squirrels in his bedroom. We were skeptical, but my father's

mental health is very good, so we thought maybe they were getting in thru

the attic.

 

We called a pest control company, but they could find nothing. Now, my

father realizes they really don't exist. He said he could see them disappearing

in the wall, and he knows that is not real.

 

I did a search "visual hallucinations in the elderly" and found a wealth of

information. They are often caused by poor vision, being isolated socially,

certain medications, lack of sleep,etc.  I would suggest you do a similar search, and may find some very helpful information.

 

Good luck- I know how hard it is to watch your parents fade away. My husband and I don't have children, and I am already getting anxious about

who is going to help us when we get old.

 

Judy

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kolleen
Reply with quote  #54 
Quote:
Originally Posted by judy

Sheila,

 

My father is 92, widowed, and lives alone. He has recently been complaining

about seeing squirrels in his bedroom. We were skeptical, but my father's

mental health is very good, so we thought maybe they were getting in thru

the attic.

 

We called a pest control company, but they could find nothing. Now, my

father realizes they really don't exist. He said he could see them disappearing

in the wall, and he knows that is not real.

 

I did a search "visual hallucinations in the elderly" and found a wealth of

information. They are often caused by poor vision, being isolated socially,

certain medications, lack of sleep,etc.  I would suggest you do a similar search, and may find some very helpful information.

 

Good luck- I know how hard it is to watch your parents fade away. My husband and I don't have children, and I am already getting anxious about

who is going to help us when we get old.

 

Judy

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kolleen
Reply with quote  #55 
Quote:
Originally Posted by kolleen
Quote:
Originally Posted by judy

Sheila,

 

My father is 92, widowed, and lives alone. He has recently been complaining

about seeing squirrels in his bedroom. We were skeptical, but my father's

mental health is very good, so we thought maybe they were getting in thru

the attic.

 

We called a pest control company, but they could find nothing. Now, my

father realizes they really don't exist. He said he could see them disappearing

in the wall, and he knows that is not real.

 

I did a search "visual hallucinations in the elderly" and found a wealth of

information. They are often caused by poor vision, being isolated socially,

certain medications, lack of sleep,etc.  I would suggest you do a similar search, and may find some very helpful information.

 

Good luck- I know how hard it is to watch your parents fade away. My husband and I don't have children, and I am already getting anxious about

who is going to help us when we get old.

 

Judy

 

Dear Judy,

 

I,too, am having a problem with what will happen to me when I get old.

 

I have a loving son, but will not want to bother him, altho he would do his very best, and a daughter who is all about herself.  I am married to a man who is 9 years my junior, but will he still be around?  This, to me, is a huge problem now, among us caregivers.

 

I, for one, don't think that prolonging life is such a good thing. 

 

What is the point?

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Barbara
Reply with quote  #56 

It is a relief to see these posts.  My mom is 79 and has just moved back to SC from Florida.  She has had numerous health problems and takes medication for blood pressure, heart, gout, and a psychotropic drug - Abilify.  She has gotten much better physically since she moved here and lives alone in a senior apt. complex.  I visit her every day at least twice a day and monitor her medication, etc.  She recently had cataract surgery. 

 

She recently also started seeing things such as people entering her apt. through her bedroom window, is convinced that there is another bedroom in her apt. that she cannot get to, swears that she saw her neighbor's grandsons breaking into apts. through the windows, and hears other people in the apt. when she and I are the only ones there.  She too gets very irritated when I try to convince her that it is not real so I don't say anything anymore about it.  Gets very disoriented as well.  But can maintain a very intelligent conversation but has problems processing, I think.  It takes her a very long time to answer a question and she sometimes loses her train of thought.

 

We are also at a loss but it is nice to have different suggestions and will talk to her doctor at her next appt. in two weeks.

 

Thanks

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Gloria
Reply with quote  #57 

Well, I couldn't believe a site like this existed.....My mom is 73 and has been hallucinating for the last 4 weeks....hearing music playing through a box flloor fan,seeing people standing by her bed and thinking she has food in her hands and nothing there........well,she lives about 50 miles from me in a small apt.....I went to get her on Friday so she could come for a visit.normally a week to 10 days.....last wed she woke me up at 5 a.m. saying the grandkids were singing through the fan and she tried to rip her oxygen machine apart...I called an ambulance and got her to the hospital, they did a ct scan and said that she had a severe urinary tract infection and needed to be hospitalized for 3 or 4 days..the 3rd day she called me at 3 a.m. and said she called the sheriff and if I didn't come and get her..she was walking out of there.....she pulled her catheter out,her IV,her bracelets ,heart monitor....she took a swing at a nurse......when I arrived she called me filthy names......threw a phone book at me and told me she wanted to go back to another hospital where she had a heart by-pass....said she hated me and that she never wanted to see me again........I was devastated!!!!!!! I broke down,but got myself together....and they are suggesting putting her in assisted living for a couple weeks. I am 57 and am raising a 7 yr old grandaughter and have my hands full and I cannot take care of her...the dr. said she will need b-12 shots the rest of her life.......she has dementia and parkinson's and I really feel bad about putting her in assisted living.......but she was taking 15 pills a day and this new dr. said she will be taking half of that now.........she turned very hateful to my kids while in the hospital...........am I doing the right thing? someone please give me some suggestions and prayers........and strength......according to her phone records,she did call 911 4 times......at 3 am.plus about 9 other people at that time........I called the nurse and asked them to take her phone away........HELP me in Ohio..........

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Sheila
Reply with quote  #58 

Hello Everyone,

 

I thought I would update you all on what has happened with my mother-in-law who was seeing furry things in her bedroom at night.  My sister-in-law made a doctor appointment for her the Thursday following a weekend birthday party for her.  Her three cjildren were there and she mentioned that she had gotten a letter from the clinic saying she had anappointment on Thursday.  My sister-in-law told her that she had made the appointment for her because of her sleeping problem at night.  I think they were all very nice about it and tried to let her know that they were all just concerned about her.  On Monday, before the appointment, she called my sister-in-law and was nasty to her and apparently, it was not a nice conversation.  She made her cancel the appointment.  When my husband called her at the end of the week, she never mentioned her appointment and said that the "night visitors" were gone and she was sleeping fine now.  My husband thinks she is lying to him.  Could all this have triggered the end of the hallucinations?  Haven't got a clue.  Any comments?

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carol lilyquist
Reply with quote  #59 

My Mom is 96.  She has lived in a board and care for 5 years.  She has one care giver 24/7 and another resident.  My sisters and I visit about 4-5 times a week.  For the last several years she started complaining about the caregiver stealing her things.  At first I believed her.  She has nothing there of value.  This has recently escalated to making up outrageous stories.  Tiger Woods was kidnapped.  The woman on the news ran away with a younger man and they had to shut off the TV.  The terrorists have taken over the country and all the news channels.  She doesn't hear the TV, so I just assumed whe was making up a story to fit what she was seeing.  Three days ago, she told me that her caregiver and her daughter came into her room while she watched and went through all of her things.  They took her "papers" and her jewelry (she has none) and through her purse in the street.  She was so adamant that I do something about it.  I suggested that she may have been dreaming this.  Now she thinks I told everyone that she is crazy and not to believe her.  In fact she says I said this in front of her.  She told me I wa a terrible daughter and not to come back. She has been taking Zoloft for 7 years for depression, atavan for anxiety and hight blood pressure meds.  Nothing new.  This is so sad. 

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Vonetta
Reply with quote  #60 

Any body on  UTI and hallucination or Levaquin an hallucination 93 year old granny went to the hospital for UTI and came home with full blown dementia can't understand it.

 

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