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So mom fell for the second time in 3 months. She now has a live in aide and a medic alert (after first fall) but got out of bed when aide was in deep sleep and fell. Medic alert called me at 4:30 am and thus began the long haul of hospital, mom freaking out in hospital, etc. She is back home now but how do I live with the constant fear that she will fall again? I can’t sleep at night for fear of another middle of the night call. We are getting bed rails in place but don’t have them yet. Do you just get used to living in fear?
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It's challenging, isn't it?  A few months ago, my FIL was at home doing something he shouldn't have, and he fell and broke his hip.  Then while he was in rehab, he tried to get up when he shouldn't have, and he fell again, breaking the other one.  

Your fear may be rooted in the well-meaning, but unrealistic belief that it's your job to prevent falls.  The truth is that we cannot always prevent them.  We cannot always prevent weak muscles and bones from letting go. We cannot always prevent people from doing things they shouldn't be doing.  And we cannot always prevent accidents from happening.

All I can suggest is that you do your best to keep her safe, and then come up with a sanity plan for yourself should you get another call that she has fallen.  Try to release a little of the pressure that it's on you to prevent her from falling.  Falls can happen anywhere. My mother has fallen in the hospital. My FIL has fallen at rehab.  Even with large staffs and plenty of oversight, falls can happen.

I hope you do not have to face this again, but if you do, please try to be kind to yourself.


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