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Rebecca W

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Hi all, I'm new here and I'm hoping someone can point me in the right direction.  My mom is 83 and requires full time home care.  My dad passed away 10 years ago and left her fairly well off, but I have recently been made aware that with her current monthly expenditures (24 hour home care, normal bills, etc.) she will be out of money in 2-3 years.  Her health is not great, but not terrible either.  My biggest issue is that my adult brother (who is a total deadbeat and has never held a job) takes her credit card and uses it for his purposes, he'll take cash out of her wallet, and he expects her to pay all his bills - rent, phone, cable tv and more!  He seems to think that her money is a never ending pot of gold, and she refuses to cut him off for some reason.  Is there a way we can deal with him legally so he can't continue wasting her money?
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Splotchy
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I'm sorry you are going through this.  Is she aware that he is stealing from her?  If she is competent and okay with it, you may not get too far, but if she is incompetent or not okay with it, you could file a complaint with Adult Protective Services, and have them do an investigation. If he is using her credit card without her permission, that is a serious crime.

Another option might be to convince her to manage her money differently.  Would she consider 1) using direct deposit and online bill paying (which might allow you to then hide the checks and credit card[wink] or 2) moving her assets to a new account that he cannot get access to; or 3) putting your name (or someone else's name who she trusts) on her accounts and giving them custody of the checkbook and credit cards; or 4) not keeping cash around? 

If she can prove he is stealing from her and she is willing to press charges, you could also call the police or the attorney general's office. A lawyer may also be able to give you advice on how to proceed.

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Splotchy
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I  put a semicolon next to the parenthesis, and now there is an emoji there!  Sorry about that. [wink]
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