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Oh Rosie, I am thinking of you and sending hugs and good thoughts your way. I totally hear what you are feeling, as my dad does and says many of the same things, and it is so upsetting. Hang in there. |
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Went to see Dad today and he was asking how long it would be before he came home!!!! He doesn't seem to get that he has had a nasty injury and a big operation which he was very lucky to survive. Also that he will be even more limited with his mobility.
He was really concerning us with his tendency to get up during the night and try to look for documents he thought he had to check on, or make himself a cup of tea....no use asking him not to do it, he would forget. He just needs to be in a safer place with more supervision and medical assistance.
So I will have to get someone at the hospital to have a talk with him about moving on to nuring home care. I have been through it with him and although he hates the idea he had agreed to it in principal, although he kept talking about it as somewhere in the future rather than now. It is going to be a very trying time once he realises that nursing home care is inevitable. But I simply can't do the intensive care stuff and the lifting and bathing etc.
So keeping my fingers crossed.
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Rosie, sending good thoughts your way. Such a stressful time for your family. Has the hospital advised whether your Dad needs AL or NH? Some ALs handle bathing, dressing, etc.
What a terrible situation to return to after a break but you know in your heart that there was nothing to prevent the fall 'cuz Dad was determined (elders often won't use the call buttons).
Hope you folks are faring well. Hugs.. |
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Rosie,
I just wanted you to know that I am thinking about you, your sister and your dad. I hope your dad will realize, that due to his accident, his needs are way more than you and your sister can provide now. I know this situation is stressful on everyone. Please keep us updated.
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Hi Rosie,
I'm so sorry about your dad's fall. Just wanted to let you know that my mum broke her hip last December. It was quite touch and go, but she survived. She will never walk again independently, and it has taken months for the physios to get her to the point where she could transfer without a sling. In fact, today is a very special day. She is coming to my house for lunch for the first time in almost a year! She is just to the point now that I can transfer her to the toilet if need be.
Anyway, my mum went to extended care for rehab and ended up becoming a permanent resident. She is quite happy there. She gets lots of attention and there are always activities going on. She doesn't seem to mind that she shares a room with someone else. In fact, the nurses say the first thing she does every morning is report on the kind of night her roommate had. But it did take some months for her to adjust, get involved in activities, and accept where her life was at this point.
I hope that your dad will be able to adjust and that visits with you will become just that - visits. You have dedicated so much of yourself to your dad, and you will still be able to do that through visits, treats, etc. It seems like it's time to leave the professional work to the professionals.
Wishing you and your dad well,
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Hi Rosie,
am thinking of you also... hang in there? hopefully you will have some resolution to the care. know you could not have prevented it? if anything this could turn out to be a blessing in that your father has care from folks he will listen to, and you can have peace of mind. hugs Rosie!
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Hi Rosie,
I hope that your Dad will listen to advice from the nurses and therapists. And you and your sister will be in agreement, I'm sure.. Were you able to enjoy your semi-vacation?
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Yes, my little vacation was great, although I put on a tiny bit of weight due to eating icecream....
Saw Dad again today, they are getting a doctor to talk to him about his future care. Definitely NH high care, as he is very frail and has some dementia. The hospital will assist with his placement, fortunately they have contacts with the particular NH that I prefer, and which is close by.
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rosie, I'm glad the hospital will be helping you get him placed, and into the NH you like, no less. I'm sorry that your father went through all this, but the silver lining is that it will get him into NH care and get you a well-deserved break! |
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Rosie,
I'm happy that your dad will be placed where he can get the 24/7care he now requires. I am sorry this had to happen, and I know it will be a difficult adjustment for the both of you, but I hope you can get your life back and begin to enjoy all the freedom that you had been forced to give up. I'm sending positive thoughts, down under, to you!!!
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Glad to hear that your Dad is going well after the operation.
As you said -let the hospital do lots of the work for his placement.
Start thinking about yourself now. What are you going to be doing while your Dad is being cared for by otheres.?You said in another post that you have no chance of getting a job BUT you never know-you may score a part-time one.
All the best
Lynn
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Dear rosie,
just want you to know I am thinking of you. And your dad.
It's a lousy situation.
It just happened........not your fault for going away.
Big hugs to you.
>>>HUGS<<<
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Thanks again to all! I am starting to think over the situation and what is going to change in my life. I will still have to be heavily involved in Dads care as far as decision-making etc, just won't have to do the hands-on stuff thank goodness. I intend to consult a solicitor to see if anything can be done about the large property involved here - I just can't face the thought of more years of hard yakka looking after it, and there won't be money to pay people to do it. Its all bound up in his will but maybe there is something that can be done so we can get the hell out of here.
Lynn from Oz - very little work here at all, particularly part-time unless you want very odd hours, which I don't,not having a car. I have zero marketable skills now,never was much good at office work. Most employers don't want anyone my age, except supermarkets and they are cutting staff here drastically. I can't stand on my feet for hours or sit for hours either, due to my osteoarthritis.My sister-in-law who is 62 has been looking for work for months but it's just the wrong time right now. I don't mean to be on a downer, just realistic.
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Rosie: Sorry to hear the news, but better for your Dd, and you, I think that he is in 24/7 care.
Can you re train for anything. I have had to retire from nursing but plan to retrain to certificate, or perhaps diploma level in Social Work. What about something like a certificate in Occupational Therapy, or Divisional Therapy and build on your time looking after your Dad?
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Hi Cathy - well, basically I couldn't afford the cost of retraining - uni and tafe costs a lot of money.Also, I am 58, only 7 years till retirement. I don't drive, so I would want something close to home and within reach of public transport. So many professionals are out of work here too so no certainty in that. I think I am better off just doing the volunteer work and biding my time till returement. I was always a lousy student anyway LOL!! |
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