anon, after giving more details it is a good possibility that it would work ok in your home. traveling that many miles to al is just as big a problem if not more so. would suggest a serious sit down with all sibs and make sure they know what help you will need and expect. having in home care with the insurance will also be a big help. when you have the meeting with your sibs make sure you include the need to have a vacation covered a couple of times a year. and maybe they would be willing to each donate a little money a month for you to hire day care for extra time and her extra expenses, if money is at all an issue. ask for help with do appts., any times she needs to be taken out. that can be very exhausting. as long as you have a space in your house that is private, for each of you, to get away for you to just unwind, i think that is one of my biggest problems, no space of my own. it sounds like your intentions are god and you are trying to ask the questions before they surprise you. god bless you, whatever your decision. decisions can always be made at later tmef it doesn't work out. you will then know you all tried.