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When do you need to be involved in medical apointments nd how do you do this
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I am assuming you are trying to get involved with an elder's medical care and you want suggestions on how to help.  

I think the first and best step whenever possible is to talk to the elder and have an honest conversation about what is going on. Keep in mind that HIPAA laws give patients many rights, including the right to privacy regarding his/her own medical affairs, so if the elder is legally able to manage his/her affairs and does not want you involved, your options are limited.  You can reach out to the doctors and share any concerns you have, but you may not receive any  personal medical info without your elder's consent.

If you feel the elder is no longer able to manage their affairs or needs assistance with transportation and mobility, you can offer to come, but you still legally may not have any rights to information.   

As to when the "right" time to intervene is, that is a much tougher question.  Generally speaking, if they are having memory issues, mobility issues, transportation issues, or quality of life issues (not taking care of themselves, not taking medications, etc.), that is probably a good time to get involved.  If they are having these issues and refuse to let you help (very common, in my experience), you may have to get creative.   Again, call the doctor and share what you are seeing and ask if they can help.

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Splotchy's response is right on!

It's tough to get involved with your loved one's doctor appointments. What worked with my mother was to take her to her appointment and when her name was called to go in to see the doctor, I asked her, "Do you mind if I come in with you?". As time passed, we proved that 2 sets of ears are better than one, and it gives you the opportunity to asked the doc to clarify anything you don't understand.

But, a word of caution ... some doctors will begin to talk to you directly rather than to your loved one. That's rude on the part of the doc. At the first sign that that's happening, ask your loved one to share her concerns with her doctor or to ask the doctor if she should be aware of anything else ... to get the doctor back on track, talking directly to your loved one.

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Bringing your aging parents into your home to live out their final years can be both a blessing and a curse. While you love having them around, the constantly increasing level of care they require can become overwhelming if you aren’t prepared. You must make sure that your parents will have everything they need to live comfortably. By the same token, you have to learn to care for yourself in the process so you can be there when they need you the most.
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