welcome christin, you only children do have a heavy load. it is time to make an appointment with a rental agency. have your mom make a list of features she NEEDS in an apartment, ask her when would be the best time for her to look and have some showings set up. and tell her she has to choose between no more showings than 10, otherwise she will drag you and the agent around the world and back and not make up her mind. then make a date for moving. ask her to also start making a list of the things she will NEED there, only what will fit in the area. make sure non of the places have a lot of stairs as she will be able to be on her own longer with fewer obsticles. also look for something that has easily accessible transportation. i don't know if she drives anymore but it sounds like she does. if and when the time comes you will want her to have access to transportation so you do not become IT. senior busses come right to the door with an appointment, at least here they do. they are not always very prompt, but they are better than nothing. start looking at making the move while there are still positives in your relationship. good luck. keep talking to us. glad you are here.