My mother wants to go to hospice in the new two or three weeks. Stopping kidney dialysis, she may have 3 weeks to live.
My question concerns MIA family members and how to handle the coming situations because my family is so dysfunctional.
My brother lives in the same town as my mom. They have not spoken in 3 years because his girlfriend stole prescription drugs (pain pills) from my mom on two separate occasions. Worried about his young son on weekend visits in the presence of that woman and thinking that bro’s ex-wife should know, my mom’s call to her caused the rift. My brother still lives with that woman. I dropped by his house recently to return something to him after cleaning my mom’s house and told him the latest. He acted nice and indicated that he would want to know things going on.
I wrote him a letter a couple of weeks ago to tell what has happened with mom’s health, the address of the AL, her plans to go to hospice, and encouraged to come and say his goodbyes. If he chooses not to come and see her, say goodbye, or visit hospice, it will be his decision, but will make me mad.
If he maintains no contact with her, it makes me angry for him to show up and accept the inheritance, pittance as it will be.
How do I conduct myself?
Mom’s sister is her last living sibling. She was much older than mom and bullied her as a child. This woman is a nut. She called mom last spring and cussed her out for a comment that mom made humorously that wasn’t that bad. My mother was very sick the day the call came in and I was standing there when she took the call. I haven’t seen them in years since they live in Florida on inheritance money that they took advantage of when my mom was drinking when her parents died. I don’t want to call her again.
Has anyone been in this situation?