Will she drink things okay? You might already be doing this, but to get her to take in more calories you might try milkshakes/smoothies or protein/energy drinks like Ensure. (They even have one for diabetics, if that's an issue.) For some people using a straw gets them to swallow/drink more, too, I think. Apparently it's not the consistency of the food since she will swallow oatmeal (soft) --and graham crackers (crunchy!). Hang in there and let us know how it's going. --t.