I just wanted to say something about how we worry about our parent not being looked after if we don't or unable to care for them all the time.
About 3 years ago I moved to where I live today. It's kind of a combination retirement living and assisted living. It's for seniors over 55 and people with disabilities. We have some services like wheelchair access and safety rails in bathrooms etc, social events, recreation room with coffee and visiting all day long, exercise room, library, crafts, games, diner 2x a week, office with manager and staff Monday to Friday 9-4, cleaning staff and someone carries an emergency pager nights, weekends and holidays and most of the staff etc live on site too.
We even have the fire hall at the end of our block and we do keep them on their toes with regular emergencies.
It's been wonderful for me and I have lots of friends here. I think everyone knows me(they call me the baby in my building) and there is a couple a hundred people living here. I call bingo once or twice a week and I just love it. We have puzzles at the end of each floor and it is a daily gathering place and there is always someone coming by to chat and I can get pretty jealous when I see how some of these 70 or 80 years olds are running around here.
You know everyone here helps each other checking up on their neighbors if they don't see them for a while or to get something from the store for them or if they still have a car, drive them to hospital or dr office.
No one ever has to be alone on holidays because different churchs and senior organizations are always offering dinners and other services to whomever wants to take part or there will always be someone who will cook the turkey and invite anyone who has no where to go..
Even blackouts when we loose our power due to storms are fun because we all get our flashlights and hobble on down to the library and party!
One time one lady who had no family took ill and had to go to hospital 2 weeks before she was moving. A couple of neighbors packed all her stuff arranged for movers and set up her whole new apt for her so when she came home from hospital everything was all done.
We are like a family here and everyone is at different levels of function physically and mentally. Some require a daily care aides, meals on wheels, medical or psychiatric intervention and one lovely lady right across the hall was on hospice care.
Some have family's coming around regularly and some have no one but everyone knows that someone here cares and will help if needed.
I actually had a scooter date with a dear 94 yr old the first month I was here but he his family decided he should move to a nh. Still miss him!
I know if the senior was living alone in there own place they would be isolated but if they could
be in a place like where I live they would be looked after and it always doesn't have to be the family that does the caring all the time.
Just thought I let you see my perspective.