Wow, it is so nice to have some feedback on this! I have a wonderful and supportive husband, but I feel so alone in all of this and it has been overwhelming to put it mildly. I do have durable POA and medical POA, BC. My mother has no assets, at all. We had to pay to get her out of her lease on her apt. because she could not afford it and we took over her car payments and eventually sold it when she became a menace to the road (she liked curbs, a lot). This was all right before she went to the NH. So she really would be homeless if she left there. I truly don't want her to be miserable, but again, I don't know of another option right now. Anything other than a full care facility, will require my help and a lot of it. She is very demanding and since she doesn't have transportation, I would have to do all of her errands for her. I have tried different approaches with her, but none seem to work. Like you said, Avalon, she is still able to remember all the things she shouldn't...ha. Lil, I have told her if she leaves it is her choice and she won't get any help from me. She is just wearing me out. I feel like she had her chance (and didn't take it) to be happy in life and now it's my turn. I will reserve my mom issues for my future thereapist, but again, I'm just happy not to feel so alone.