"Should the adult child caregiver receive a larger cut in a parent's will?"
I never want to hear the word "equal" said in the same breath as inheritance or in any discussion of rights, because as far as I am concerned There was nothing "equal" in a system that made me an unpaid slave, a victim of "status obligation" who enabled everyone in my family to have lives
, while I saved an ungrateful government big bucks.
What some people fail to realize is that by the adult child either moving a parent or parents in with them or vice versa they are in fact helping to protect an inheritance
. When you're looking at 60K a year per person if the elderly parent were placed in an AL or a nursing home.
So there are many cases where the inheritance that was intended to go to family has been left well intact because one adult child did the hands on caregiving.
Equality, as usual, and now John, have said it all as far as I'm concerned. Of course there is no guarantee of inheritance but when there is something left, surely the decent outcome should be that the one who lost the most in the process is properly compensated and those who remained unaffected, should not need as much compensation. I'd still like to know exactly what a destitute caregiver of advanced years is supposed to live on, or is the honour attached to cleaning up "poop messes" supposed to be sufficient reward in itself? It's easy to dismiss the strain and drudgery of dealing with the difficult stuff when you're never called upon to do it yourself, just a tiny bit like the proverbial tree falling in the wood.
And so the madness continues....................I guess I'm not the only ostrich left out here.